I recently heard a lady say her marriage was just hanging on by a thread. My reaction was “I hope that thread is Kevlar”. If you are unfamiliar with thread, Kevlar is a commercial grade thread that is used on items that need strong seams such as work gloves, backpacks, mattresses, and bullet proof vests. It also is used on items that need to withstand high heat or be stretched some. So you can see why I hoped that the thread used to weave her marriage together was figuratively speaking Kevlar. Because what marriage doesn’t need to have reinforced seams, be stretched a little and be able to withstand those heated conversations.
Later I began to ponder the idiom of “hanging by a thread” I even went as far as looking it up to see what it implied. According to the Cambridge Dictionary “If a serious situation hangs by a thread then it means that even a slight change can decide what will happen and that a bad result such as death, failure etc. is likely”.
How ominous is that, living in a marriage that is being held together by a thread. Thinking that with one more pull the thread breaks and it’s bye bye marriage. So sad, but I suddenly could relate to her choice of words. I had been there. I had experienced that feeling of we are barely hanging on and my marriage is about to die.
I did have a “Kevlar” thread holding my marriage together though. It was the divine thread made of three cords that wasn’t going to be broken easily either. It held together long enough for us to get the help we needed. That help came from a conference called “Weekend to Remember”. We were fortunate enough to have some friends who knew the importance of having God woven into a marriage and they wanted to send us to this conference.
My husband was optimistic but I looked at it as a last-ditch effort and if I went I could at least say I tried. We attended that Weekend to Remember in 2004. Now in 2016 we have since gone back again and taken other couples from our church. We have bought tickets for wedding gifts and given it as a recommendation to other couples whose marriage is suffering, because we know first hand how God can work miracles in your marriage even when all that’s left is a single thin thread and you are making a last-ditch effort.
We were given some great information that weekend from wonderful speakers. The thing that had the greatest impact on restoring our marriage was the requirement of the Saturday night “Date Night”. We had a huge breakthrough on that night in which we isolated ourselves from everyone and stayed focused on just each other. We talked thru everything that had been stored in our hearts for years that we had been pulling from to hurt one another with. We were up most of the night but we eliminated it all. We were no longer hanging by a thread. We were woven so tight, even more so than the day we married.
I suggest if you are having any feelings that your marriage is hanging by a thread that you give God the chance to show you how He can be a part of your marriage and if possible attend a Weekend to Remember, neither will you regret. And never forget the Power of our God. He wants so much to restore your marriage!